High Performers. Exceptional Careers. Quietly Strained Relationships.
I help high earners repair and deepen their most important relationships—without sacrificing the drive that got them here.
Licensed marriage & family therapist and Ph.D. in clinical psychology with 35+ years of experience working with executives, professionals, and first responders.
Certified Executive Relationship Coach.
Who this is for
You’re successful on paper—but at home it feels more complicated:
- You’re a high earner (exec, business owner, professional, or retired high‑stress professional) whose relationship feels tense, distant, or transactional.
- You notice more criticism, sarcasm, or silence—and fewer easy, affectionate moments.
- You and your partner circle the same arguments about time, priorities, or money without resolution.
- You worry that if something doesn’t change, you’ll drift into parallel lives…or out of the relationship altogether.
If that sounds uncomfortably accurate, you’re exactly who I built this for.
Why high earners need a different approach
My approach is designed specifically for driven people who want both: exceptional work and a relationship that doesn’t feel like the cost of that success.
Traditional couples advice often assumes:
- Unlimited time
- Low external stress
- Perfect emotional language
High earners live in a different world:
- You make high-stakes decisions daily and bring that same intensity home.
- You’re used to solving problems with more effort or more control — which often backfires in intimate relationships.
- Your partner may feel like they come after your career, your team, or your mission.
The result we’re working toward
My work is focused on creating relationships that feel:
- Safer to be honest in, even about hard topics like resentment, sex, money, and regret.
- Easier to repair after conflict, so arguments stop lingering for days or weeks.
- Warmer and more connected, even when schedules are demanding.
- More aligned on the “big picture”: roles, freedom, legacy, and how you actually want the next 10 years to feel.
How my process works
I use a structured, time‑bound process so you know exactly what we’re doing and why.
All sessions can be done entirely by phone, keeping this process discreet and easy to fit into a busy life.
1
Clarity and patterns (Weeks 1–2)
- Private intake to understand your history, current relationship dynamics, and non-negotiables.
- Identify your real “core pattern” (pursue/withdraw, shutdown/blow up, etc.) and the specific triggers that keep recreating it.
- Create a clear map of what must change in the next 90 days.
2
Communication that actually lands (Weeks 3–6)
- Learn a simple script for hard conversations that reduces defensiveness instead of escalating it.
- Replace reactive texting/arguing with a structure for “high-signal” conversations that stay on track.
- Practice in session so you’re not trying this for the first time in the middle of a conflict.
3
Repair and reconnection (Weeks 7–10)
- Build a shared repair ritual so conflicts end with understanding, not scorekeeping.
- Re-establish small, consistent connection habits that fit the reality of your schedule.
- Align on a clear agreement about time, energy, and priorities going forward.
4
Integration and future‑proofing (Weeks 11–12)
- Pressure-test your new habits against real-life stressors.
- Build a “relapse plan” for when old patterns start to return.
- Decide together on next steps (maintenance check-ins, deeper work, or graduation).
What you get in the 12‑week program
- Weekly 50‑minute private phone sessions (you alone, or you and your partner together, depending on needs).
- Brief “in‑between” text or voice-note support for time-sensitive situations.
- Custom conversation scripts and prompts tailored to your relationship and temperament.
- Clear, measurable goals so you can see progress rather than “talking in circles.”
You’re not getting generic advice; you’re getting high-level guidance from someone who has sat with thousands of couples over decades.
Why work with me
Certified Executive Relationship Coach
- 35+ years as a licensed marriage and family therapist with a Ph.D. in clinical psychology.
- Extensive experience with high-stress professions (law enforcement, executives, medical, entrepreneurs).
- Developer of relationship-coaching frameworks used by professionals and families alike.
- Direct, respectful style: I won’t waste your time, and I won’t sugarcoat what’s in the way.
If you’re used to excellence in your work, you deserve the same level of expertise in your relationship support.
What I Offer
4-Week Program
“Relationship Reset”
Best for: People who want clarity fast and want to stop the immediate damage.
What it does
- Identifies the main conflict pattern.
- Helps the couple or client understand what is really going wrong.
- Introduces communication tools that reduce escalation.
- Creates one or two immediate wins so the relationship feels more hopeful.
Value:
- Fast relief.
- Clear understanding of the cycle.
- Practical tools they can use right away.
- Good for someone who wants to “start now” without a long commitment.
Outcome:
By the end of 4 weeks, you will have a clearer understanding of your relationship pattern, better communication basics, and a first layer of repair.
If your relationship feels stuck, tense, or reactive, this program helps you slow things down, see the pattern, and make the first meaningful changes.
8-Week Program
“Relationship Repair Intensive”
Best for: People who want more than a reset and are ready to change the deeper pattern.
What it does
- Includes everything in the 4-week program.
- Goes deeper into the emotional cycle and triggers.
- Strengthens communication skills through practice.
- Introduces repair strategies after conflict.
- Builds better emotional safety and consistency.
Value:
- Deeper change, not just quick relief.
- More coaching time to practice new skills.
- Stronger accountability.
- Better for couples or individuals who know the issues are longstanding.
Outcome:
By the end of 8 weeks, you will have changed the basic relationship cycle, improved communication under stress, and built a more stable repair process.
This is ideal if you already know the problem is not just “one bad argument,” but a repeating pattern that needs focused work and guided practice.
12-Week Program
“Relationship Transformation Program”
Best for: People who want the fullest experience and are ready for long-term change.
What it does
- Includes everything in the 4- and 8-week programs.
- Deepens insight into core patterns, needs, and attachment dynamics.
- Improves conflict recovery and reconnection.
- Builds a sustainable relationship system.
- Helps create a shared vision for the future.
Value:
- Most complete support.
- More time for real transformation.
- Best for people with complex schedules, deeper wounds, or long-standing disconnection.
- Feels premium and comprehensive.
Outcome:
By the end of 12 weeks, you will have a new framework for your relationship, stronger communication, a more reliable repair process, and a plan for maintaining the gains.
This program is for people who want not just to reduce conflict, but to build a healthier, more connected relationship that can last.
Is this a fit for you?
This program is a good fit if:
- You take responsibility for your side of the street and are willing to change your part of the pattern.
- You want a structured, time-bound process — not endless, aimless talking.
- You value privacy and prefer phone-based, discreet support.
It’s not a fit if:
- You want to blame your partner without looking at yourself at all.
- You’re in active addiction, involved in ongoing domestic violence, or a current legal case (these require a different level of care).
If you’re unsure, the consultation call is the place to ask all of this openly.
What happens on the 20‑minute consultation
- We clarify what’s happening in your relationship now and what’s at stake if nothing changes.
- I outline whether my framework is a fit, and if not, I’ll tell you directly.
- If we both agree it’s a fit, we’ll select a start date and session time that works with your schedule.
You’ll leave the call with either
A clear next step with me, or
A clearer understanding of what kind of support you actually need.No pressure, no on‑the‑spot personal disclosures required. This is a confidential conversation to see if working together makes sense.